Long Distance Relationship

Once upon a time, Hong Kong and China were poor. "Overseas Matching" meant "mail order brides" - a woman who would marry anyone anywhere so money could be sent home. This carried such a stigma that even today, many still shun away from the idea  without wanting to understand that times have in fact changed dramatically. Today, there is a shortage of jobs in the west just as there is a shortage of talent in China. Many people, especially Chinese who have once immigrated to other countries, are eager to come home.

 

The Canadian Chamber of Commerce hosted a talk by Paul Gibbons on 29th Nov 2011 confirming precisely this trend. The economy in the USA and Europe is deteriorating just as China's economy is continuing to grow, but the education system in China cannot produce an experienced work force fast enough to keep pace with her own growth, so the demand for talent is high. It follows that many highly educated executives and professionals in the west are now more interested to relocate eastward than ever before. 

 

Whilst our overseas matching trips would naturally open the possibility of meeting and marrying foreigners, large chinese communities are a force to be reckoned with. Half of the "expats" coming to Hong Kong today are in fact returning Chinese who have previously immigrated to North America.  

 

How does one deal with a long distance relationship then ?

 

If you do or know of people who do, this means the inconvenience of distance does not necessarily erode a relationship.

 

If you do or know of people who do, this means the convenience of proximity does not necessarily enhance a relationship.

 

By communications via emails, faxes, phone calls, skype, courier....with occasional visits in person. Business transactions in billions of dollars have been done that way; allies have been formed, treaties have been signed, wars have been fought and won that way.

 

The ability to step outside our box and enjoy a social intercourse with people around the world. Many of us have an on-going relationship with a client, a supplier, an associate somewhere - a bond deeper and stronger than with the colleague sitting next to you . This means quality communications does not necessarily have to happen in person.

 

Which is a faster way to learn a language? 2 hours/wk for a year ? or a crash course? Concentration wins every time. You may see each other less frequently, but when you do, you tend to spend quality time more intensively with each other. This is how some camp mates, casual encounters become lifelong friends...This is what modern corporations strive to achieve through "team building" - because it has been scientifically proven that the concentrated density of togetherness quickly creates special bonding among people.

 

 A woman aged 40 and up in HK would ideally be seeking a man aged 40-50, except most men in this age group are already married. The divorce rate is still relatively low in HK because Chinese women have strong family values, they seldom divorce husbands for minor indiscretions. By extending our search outside HK, the larger the pool, the larger the selection, and the quicker you are likely to find someone . What would you say to a Macau lady who wants to find a husband but refuses to leave Macau ? You would probably laugh at her restricted vision, tell her to widen her horizon and step outside her box. We can be condescending because in comparison to Macau, Hong Kong is soooo "BIG", but in comparison to the rest of the world, we are the "Macau".

 

On line. Millions of people have found love in cyber, the only down side is, you could be investing a lot of time and emotion just to find out that it is a scam. With our overseas matching, you meet the guys first, so you actually know whom you are communicating with.